Written
by Alberta Parish
Recently, a 13-year-old boy in Georgia
killed himself after being continuously bullied by students at his middle
school. It was stated that he was
bullied for two years by students. As a
result, the boy hung himself.
The suicide statistics among teens and
young adults are daunting as it is a sign of not only emotional illness but a
bully culture. Whether it is the whole
of society that produces bullies or bullies are products of their parents and
other family members. No one can really
know what is inside anyone’s mind and heart before they decide to kill
themselves. One thing we can all be sure
of is the suicide rate among American teens is a staggering example of a
culture that really doesn’t care about its own children. Kids go missing in this country every day due
to sex trafficking, slave trafficking, human sacrifice and so forth. Although the government tries to make it seem
like it is going after all pedophiles in America, there are pedophile rings that’s
been in full operation for years in the highest echelons of society whose
perpetuators will never see one day in jail or prison for the atrocities they
have committed.
Why didn’t the adults do something to
stop this boy from being bullied by his classmates? Why didn’t his mother remove him from the
school? There are many black children
who are left to their own devices, because they are missing their fathers in
the home. If the fathers are missing
from their lives, this means they have only their mothers to see about
them. But mother can’t really keep a
good eye on her children if she has to work a 40-50-hour work week. I think there is something seriously wrong
with a woman who has multiple kids by multiple men, none of whom are in their
child’s life. Who deluded women to think
they can be both the mother and father in the lives of their children? It is impossible for a woman to be both
mother and father. The Most High never
designed the woman to play the role of both mother and father. A lot of unmarried black women with multiple
kids are looking for men with money. She
will often pick a man based on what he can do for her and her children
monetarily. Any man who chooses to date
a woman with children inadvertently becomes the child’s daddy and provider
whether he wants to be in that role or not.
A woman who is struggling to keep a roof over her and her children’s
heads will often pick a man based on his wallet and not on his qualities. The man may not be right for her. He may be abusive and controlling toward her
and her children. He may not respect her
or her children. He may not ever marry
her, because she has a bunch of kids by other dudes. She wants the financial security, because
it’s all about survival. Let’s face
it. Up to 75% of households in the black
community comprise the single mother with multiple kids. Sometimes, there is a live-in boyfriend. He is not the child’s father. Most times, the real daddies are not even in
the picture for various reasons. Much of
it has to do with child support issues.
Sometimes, there is a lot of bitterness between the kid’s parents. Other times, the real daddies are in prison
or dead.
Whenever a child kills himself
especially when it could have been prevented were proper measures taken, it is
a clear sign of failure by the adults surrounding him including the parents and
other family members. This kid really
did not feel like he had someone he could rely on or someone who truly took an
interest in him. He felt alone with the
voices in his head telling him that nobody
cares about you, this will never stop, you don’t want to be here anymore,
nobody likes you. This was a soul
lost for nothing. This was a soul that
could have been prevented from being lost.
But in this bully culture, most people do not have empathy for others. Most Americans do not care about their fellow
Americans. Neither do they care how they
talk disrespectfully to you or treat you with disrespect. You see it every day. Child bullies often grow up to be adult
bullies that you have to work with on the job.
If your mom or dad is a bully, how do you handle that? Do you become like them or choose another
path? How do you handle a sibling who is
a bully? Are you a bully? If so, why?
There is a law that states,
“Whatsoever a man sow, that will he also reap?”
Many people truly believe they can bully others, and nothing will ever
happen to them as a result of what they did.
They believe they have escaped the harm they’ve done to someone in
causing him/her to commit suicide. This
is the average mentality of most bullies.
This is also arrogance. Only an
arrogant person would believe that the evil they do to others won’t somehow
have detrimental effects in their own lives.
Although they may want to forget they’ve caused a young boy’s death,
their subconscious mind won’t ever let them forget it. They will probably have all kinds of health
issues as they get older due to stress-related problems. Whenever you are stressed out, your body
automatically reacts to stress increasing your chances of heart disease, high
blood pressure, stroke, and neurological as well as emotional problems. When you think you have gotten away with
causing another person’s demise, your body and subconscious mind won’t ever let
you forget it. You are responsible for
someone’s death! Therefore, all kinds of
bad luck are coming your way unless you ask the family of your victim to
forgive you and more importantly do everything you can to atone for the life
you have taken. You must also go before
the Most High God and ask for His forgiveness for what you have done. You cannot ask the victim to forgive you,
because he is dead. But you can make
amends to his family.
Most kids are dumb. Their brains are not fully developed. Therefore, many do not have the capacity to
understand the magnitude of their actions and decisions, which often end up
being lifetime problems. Kids are not
taught how to think for themselves.
They’re taught how to follow the regulations of the school
administrators and instructors. They’re
mostly taught how to be followers of others.
Our culture has produced drone-like citizens, many of whom are unable to
formulate a full thought on their own without being told what and how to think. Mass media and social media have shaped the
minds of our youth for the worse. The
powers do not want the people to be true thinkers, because they do not want
people to ever wake up. An awakened
population is not beneficial to the controllers. An awakened person perceives the world
differently than the average drone-like human.
An awakened people are trouble for their controllers. Therefore, there is an active war being waged
on the mind of every human being, starting with the youth.
Most kids want to be popular and fit
in. They want to be one of the cool kids
in school. Instead of many kids standing
out from the pack of wolves and not allowing the majority to bully other kids,
they often join in and become bullies themselves. But I blame the school administrators and
instructors that are teaching kids to follow the status quo and do as I say and
not as I do. A lot of kids are mean,
because their parents are mean to them.
A lot of kids hurt other kids, because someone close to them has hurt
them. There are kids living with abusive
parents and their boyfriends who come to school angry at everybody and want to
take their frustration out on everybody.
There are kids with severe emotional problems, because they’ve been
physically and sexually abused by adults.
There are kids who are physically abused by older kids in the
neighborhood and, in turn, they physically abuse other kids.
I grew up in a single-parent home with
a loving mother who had experienced some traumatic experiences in her
life. But she never punished me for her
past negative experiences. This is a
woman who grew up in the Deep South, during the Jim Crow era. She was born during World War 2. She came up in a time when black people were
regularly hanged by white citizens, and there were separate public facilities
for black and whites. My mother was 14
years old at the time 14-year-old Emmett Till was brutally beaten to death by
white adult males. She went to a
segregated school. She was also made to
stay home from school to work in the cotton field, because the family needed
money. Her daddy wasn’t working. She saw Martin Luther King’s I Have A Dream speech. She witnessed the Civil Rights Movement, and
the passing of the Civil Rights Bill. As
a young woman, something very horrible happened to her. Yet, none of these traumatic experiences turned
my mother into a bitter person. In fact,
these experiences made her a loving and kind person.
Unfortunately, many emotionally and
physically-wounded black men and black women take their past experiences out on
their children. I live in a generation
in which a lot of parents do not care anything about the well-being of their
children. Many do not possess a
nurturing attitude toward their own offspring.
They love everything but their own children. They love their boyfriends or
girlfriends. They even love somebody
else’s children before they love their own children. They neglect their children for a job and for
a man. They put their children to the
side in order to go party. They do not
understand the concept of sacrifice.
Having children means you must sacrifice your time and your own
self-will to make sure your children are safe and have what they need. The concepts of sacrifice and self-denial are
lost to much of my generation.
The teen suicide rate among gay boys
and girls are far worse than among heterosexual boys and girls. There are thousands of gay American teens who
run away from home each year, because their families have rejected them. Many of these kids end up as sex trafficking
victims. Many others go missing and are
never found. A lot of gay male teens are
taken advantage of by older gay males in the twenties, thirties, forties, and
fifties. Some of these kids become very
tough after they’ve been beat up a few times by bullies in their school. In fact, a lot of gay teenage males can
fight.
It is imperative that parents take a
very active role in the daily lives of their children. If you are the only parent raising a child,
you may have to take a job with only part-time hours so that you can spend more
quality time with your children. You may
need to take a job in which you can work from home. You need to be able to go to your child’s
school, and see what’s going on. Working
a part-time job means you may not be able to buy a new car or go shopping for
apparel each week. But you will know
everything that is going on with your children.
As the only parent of a child and working a 40-50 work week, it is
impossible to know everything your children are doing. This is why women should never have children
without a husband. It is not a good idea
for women to have multiple kids by multiple men, none of whom are in the home
and helping you raise the kids. A male
authority and voice is powerful to a child.
Children sometimes run over their mothers, but they will calm down when
their daddy opens his mouth and exerts his authority.
The 13-year-old that recently
committed suicide probably didn’t have his father in the household. He probably didn’t trust another man to talk
about what he was dealing with at school.
A lot of boys develop mistrust for other men when their daddies abandon
them and leave them to fend for themselves.
We must ask ourselves, “Why are men abandoning their sons?” Is it due to bitterness for the mothers of
their children? Is it because women are
actively keeping their children from spending time with the father due to
selfishness? All of this goes back to
the concepts of sacrifice and self-denial.
As a parent, you must put aside your pride for the greater good of your
children. You may not like your child’s
father, but don’t punish him by keeping his kid away from him. He may have really hurt you. But if he wants to be in his child’s life,
don’t hinder him. Men should never give
up on their children whether he is still married or attached to his child’s
mother or not. Don’t abandon your
children, because their mother is acting crazy.
You may need to get full custody of your children. Don’t be the parent who wasn’t around if your
child end up committing suicide.
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